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Re: Is Porn causing you Social Anxiety?

PornIsEvil — Mon, 07 May 2012 00:35:31 -0000

I have masterbated since 12 . I am 20 years old now.
Througout highschool i was always the quite shy guy and i was good looking. I always had girls talking to me but i never made the move to go further with them.
I never knew why i was like this i always thought to myself i was different.
When i hit 17 i turned too drugs and spent 3 years just staying home smoking and having no sex drive at all ( i masterbated pretty much everday) this just made my anxiety worse.

About 1 month ago I met this girl an she came back to my place. We both got naked and i wasn't able to get a proper erection. I was so confused and did some research an found out that chronic masterbation can not only give you social anxiety but it can also cause erectional dysfunctional problems.

I have now stopped masterbating for 2 weeks and all i want too do is go out and talk too girls. And also meet up with my friends more.

I know i have a long time before my brain rewires itself back to normal but seeing
progress has made me so happy.

For anyone out there who has masterbated too porn for a long time.
STOPP!!!!!!!
it is doing you no good mentally, physically and emotionally. Who knew porn and masterbation could be so bad for us hey?

I have read that it will take 30 - 90 days depending on many factors including your age , when you started , how long you have been doing it for.

Re: How To Get A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend – It Can Be Done

Marcoturner — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 21:00:37 -0000

i really need help theres this soccer player name alex morgan shes a girl obviously i cant stop thinking about her she is so hot and she has a boyfriend i need help

Re: How To Get An Asian Girlfriend

Rwr — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 18:11:31 -0000

Your a retard

Re: How To Get A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend – It Can Be Done

Montalvom — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 12:55:39 -0000

i hate my life

Re: Is Porn causing you Social Anxiety?

Jag Off — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 04:43:05 -0000

Ive been researching this topic deeply myself, I can say that I found little scientific backup that points that masturbation causes anxiety and depression. Let me tell you, when I was 13 i started masturbating. The first time felt AMAZING (Ive never felt that way since) and every other time I started feeling less and less of that amazing feeling. I was instantly hooked, masturbating 3-5 times or more a day, every day. Im 18 now and im trying to stop this addiction because Ive lost 5 years of my life to anxiety and depression and its time I get back into control of my life. It will be a tough uphill battle but Its something that I have to do. Goodluck to everyone else who is struggling with this fight! You CAN win it!!

P.S. Ive seen a ton of doctors and even got put on medication for a while for the anxiety but it didnt work. I cant believe that their isnt deeper medical investigation or knowledge on the negative health effects of chronic masturbation. If I knew how bad it would make me feel in the long run I never would have started!

Re: How To Get A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend – It Can Be Done

Sam_mummy — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 19:03:15 -0000

Did u lose yours??

Re: Are girls intimidated by good looking guys?

Tiptoe79 — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 22:03:12 -0000

ZNinja best advice...work you're arse off in the gym.
Helped me massively, unconfident skinny good looking-lad transformed into 6ft 2 hunk.
Becoming a physical presence is the single greatest action you can take.
With presence comes confidence. But remain humble. You will begin loving women and women will begin loving you.

Re: How To Get A Girl To dance With You In A Club

Micheal — Sat, 07 Apr 2012 09:31:10 -0000

Not in my country of mongolia, of course there is alot of attractive and hot chicks. Last night i had a risky ballsy night in the clubs here in mongolia, after i lived in usa many years. i just wanted to dance, not even thinking f***ing any girl. And some girls think it over, here boys are just want spend a night with them or what, they think im same. But im a man enough to know how to turn girl around. How can i entertain myself that im a man not a boy without saying? My country girls are like a country girls, but i have no choice since living here, cuz they are hot enough like a usa-asian girls u know

Re: Learn How To Attract Girls

Ravindra Sharma007 — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 08:36:22 -0000

Hi David,

I want to know is there a way out to get a girl back in ur life,, who doesnot love u anymore.
Means a girl use to love me very much now she doesnt.....

Re: How To Pick Up Girls Like Hunter S. Thompson…

Marinegtr500 — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 23:28:21 -0000

Bull SHITT that's fucking 60 or 70 years ago mother fucker

Re: How To Get A Girl To Like You In 8 Easy Steps?

Bryan — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 01:28:59 -0000

Name of the girl in the picture?

Re: Are girls intimidated by good looking guys?

sr782 — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 01:18:50 -0000

put me on that list as well

Re: Are girls intimidated by good looking guys?

Zninjalink — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 00:48:41 -0000

I read all of your comments,, and guess what... i am also a very attractive guy as well,, im 19 portugese and half black mixed,, i have a twin sister,, but to me it seems like even perfection isnt enough to get a girl,,i have game,, i approchoch wemon all that,,, it seems like the only wemon i have luck with is.. the ones that come up to me... i have friends that are idiots and assholes that cheat on there girlfrineds,,, there even ugly... and stilll...have more luck then me,,,i feel like...if im not having sex.... then noone is......i text these girls...i say all the nicest things,,, and dont even really get a replie.... i feeel like a peice of shit... and then it doesnt do anything but make me mad at the whole wemon race...... everytime i get 2 steps closer i take ten steps back... i go on all no joke these websites and apps,,,,, talk to almost every single girl on the site.... and only get like 2-3 replies out of 100,, like,, wtf do wemon want??? I thought i was lucky that i was good looking,,, but now i feel like... its bad to be goodlooking,,, i havent had sex in...2 years. Im depressed cuz i feel like even though im good looking nobody wants me...and that must mean my personality is shitty as fuck.. but im fun to be around.. i have alot of friends... idk it makes me hate wemon... cuz i feel like wemon hate me!

Re: 30 Proven Flirting Tips, for Men

Wickedaj87 — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 18:05:53 -0000

I always wondered why men think they make good flirting experts and can give awesome advice to other men, telling them what works and doesn't. You want to know what generally works, then asking a female is your best bet....

"24. Any time she displays even a hint of some kind of incompetence,
exaggerate it, to *the max*. If she can’t type on her phone, say
something like, “My 6 year old cousin can txt better than you.” If she
mumbles or makes a mistake when talking, say something like, “I didn’t
know it was ‘special needs’ night tonight.” Smile when you say these
things."
THAT section, NO GOOD. I am a 24 year old female and I can guarantee you that any man who does this part is going to either get slapped, a drink in their face or similar. Teasing the girl works to a degree and depends on what is said, this is NOT teasing, this is making fun of her. That "special needs" part would be a LOW blow, and smiling during any of that makes it worse. All this does is make you look like a complete jackass.
""23. Tell her what to do: “Hold this a sec”; “Come here…”; “Look at
this…”; “Let’s go over there, c’mon.”; “Check this out.” and so on. You
are leading her subtly, and by following what you say, she is accepting
the frame. Compliance is her subtly acknowledging you as the leader, the
dominant one."
Once again, This part works to a certain degree if you're careful; ORDERING her around makes you look too bossy. Yes women like a certain amount of dominance with a man but not too much. I agree, subtlety is key here. Don't make her hold your things EVER (unless you're dating her). Most women don't like being treated like a door mat. The "look at this" is fine. If you're going to try the "come here" don't just use that try "Come here so you can see this/come here there's more room" give her a good reason why she should come to you. Otherwise it's going to seem like you're trying to lead her away to kill her or something worse.

Other than that really... most of the tips should work if executed properly. But if your goal was a nasty (and i don't mean "i want a girl to call me daddy and spank me" nasty, I mean "I'm gonna need to see the health clinic after this" nasty) girl who's looking for a quickie (or an alibi, hey you never know) do all the wrong things I mentioned above, they like that "I'm the biggest douche-asshole-you'll-ever-meet" technique.

Good pointers: Sometimes, often times rather, simple IS BEST. "Hi, I'm (Your name here). I saw you across the bar (or similar). (Give a compliment, not rude"You have HUGE boobs" or too cheesy "Did it hurt when you fell out of heaven?"). Can I buy you a drink?" The "buy you a drink" normally works after introduction, not AS the introduction. The "would you like to dance" works after you've chatted her up a bit (and it's the proper location for dancing, so obviously asking in the middle of a cafe at 10am isn't the place for that line.).

Re: Are girls intimidated by good looking guys?

FrustratedGuy — Sat, 17 Mar 2012 15:10:52 -0000

Guys are just as jealous and insecure as woman are. I have so many times been stabbed in the back by jealous friends and "so called friends"" who felt threatened by me and insecure about themselves.
I get along with woman. I enjoy being around them. I always create a special bond on a deeper level when I meet woman, and when a guy or a boyfriend notices and feels threatened, then the snowball of jealousy has already started to roll. What I do nowadays is I just stay away and try not to get involved with this childishness. This is something that seriously has to change in society. Why can't two people talk to one another without a third person barging in to see what is going on? The big problem is trust. We don't trust one another, and I mean, if there is no trust, there is no hope, there is no love, only fear, hatred, malice, selfishness, greed, unpeace and sadness.

Re: How To Get A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend – It Can Be Done

Guest — Sat, 17 Mar 2012 08:09:26 -0000

i think as guys we tend to want what we want cause we want it. don't talk yourself into wanting her. you think she's cool, no explanation necessary. let her know, and let her know you're ok with not getting her and just "being a helping hand." if you get it, you get it. if not, that's cool too. easy boy, down!

Re: How To Get An Older Woman

Nehemiah dawson — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 13:10:01 -0000

love this man im 21 and was talking to a 37 year old and was doing good till i came on to strong smh ill get back on track

Re: Are girls intimidated by good looking guys?

Laura Harley — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 21:04:57 -0000

Lately i noticed that my self esteem is low around men im attracted to.This article makes alot of sense. There has been situations were the interest in someone is only a phase because of fear and it controls my ability to have who i want. Maybe guys have this same problem and i seen guys get scared of me and now i understand that we people have a lack in social confidence, its sad :( Or maybe its a good thing because a guy can be just as shallow as a girl and i dont want to get in a bad situation.

Re: Are girls intimidated by good looking guys?

amandabricot — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 23:59:09 -0000

Guys, I don't know how old you all are but I agree with x6110 comment.
We, girls, have been ALL our lives raised to be aware and cautious of you. It is valid for all kind of guys so it obviously applies for GOOD looking guys. To us, a good and serious guy- someone we can trust and who cares about us- is a guy who MAKES THE MOVE! Why do you think all the romantic comedies are so popular? Because the guy is persistent. We like it when a guy pursue us, it shows us we are important to you.

That said, not many man act this way these days. We like a guy who shows his interest, letting us be the woman. It is so hard these days! And true, we sometimes end up with less good looking/ less of a great personality/ less potential guys because they don't scare us AND they are often the ones with more guts! Depending on the girl and her confidence, some go for it, some not...some until they understand they should have more confidence and go for the right guy... (unless it's real love)! Why is it so complicated?!

Also, you might have noticed that very pretty girls can end up with average guys because sometimes, they are the only guy to either not be impressed (if they are intelligent) and actually 'see' something else then just a good looking girl to show off around. People think life is easy for good looking girls...well let me tell you, life can be hell. All the other girls are so jealous, it makes your life miserable even when people think you have everything to be happy...work is hard, relationships are hard...while we never heard of guys being jealous of others guys.

Re: How To Approach Girl on the Street

Jessica Stromsky — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 09:42:31 -0000

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Re: 101 Ways How To Get a Girl

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Re: Is Porn causing you Social Anxiety?

tried it. it worked :) — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 15:52:47 -0000

Might not leave completely but you will definitely notice you interact with people differently and that your anxiety is not as severe as it once was. I started becoming more social once I stopped. But it also takes the right frame of mind. Positive thinking and obviously interacting a lot with people. The more you interact the better you get at it. A simple way I like to look at it is whatever caused the problem, do the opposite. You're socially awkward because you isolated yourself so long from people and your frequent masturbation caused your low confidence and low self esteem. So to undo this, quit masturbating and go talk to people. Might be hard at first but overtime when your brain starts to change you'll have more motivation to do these things.

Re: How To Get A Shy Girl To Talk To You

Xander — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 17:15:43 -0000

I'm 16. There's this girl I like and I know she deffinately liked me...I'm not sure bout now tho. I know she's heaps shy and when ever I go to talk to her (when I knew she liked me) she would walk away to find something. Like whenever she would see me walking towards her, her or one of her friends would make up an excuse to walk away and then I'd leave n they come back a few minuites later. Could it just be that she's THAT shy? Or does she really not like me ?? Can anyone tell what this means?
O n I almost forgot we talk on msn almost everynight N I can tell that shes ok to talk to me there n she seems like she likes me bt the last couple of nights she hasn't been on...

Re: The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters

Tatah — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 15:00:18 -0000

One film that find interesting in this genre is "Infidelity". Worth seeing the way the bad guy seduced a married woman.

Re: 5 Ways to Meet Your Ideal Girl This Christmas

where to meet girl — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 13:36:00 -0000

Nice post.. I really like the sledging and snowball fights.. It is really fun to do.. :D